To All The Single and Lonely Ladies

All my life, I've been told that in order to find true happiness, I would have to meet someone nice, marry him, and become the perfect wife. Sounds simple enough, but has it ever occurred to anyone how pathetic that sounds? Sure I get that I would much prefer not to be alone for the rest of my life, but is it really nesessary for me to find someone in order to become completely happy?

Now, I am not a pessimist, or a super realist, or anything like that. I am actually a hopeless romantic fool who still gets goosebumps every time she watches a Disney princess film. That whole riding off into the sunset with “the one” has been a dream of mine (and a lot of other girls) for the longest time. So no one can tell me that I am just one of the those bitchy feminist girls who hate it when men open the door for them. Nor am I dissing any kind of relationship I've had because I, up to this point, have never regretted a decision I've made when it came to men. Though some of which are heart breaking, they still made me who I am today. This is all from a completely well thought-out and unbiased perspective.

What I am trying to say is that it is simply very annoying whenever a relative comes up to me and asks me about my love life. Like the only correct answer I should tell them is one that leads to a happy, committed, and family-driven life with my potential husband. You tell them you're just seeing someone casually, and they tell you to be a lady and make sure you won't let a man like him go. If you tell them you're single, they look at you with such pity like the world has delt you with the worse punishment anyone can ever receive: being alone.

And what is so damn wrong with being alone I might ask? This is why there are so many girls out there who dieting like crazy, trying to get the “perfect” body that will catch the “perfect” mate. Ladies, if you are alone, know that it is okay. You do not need a freaking relationship to be happy. Go out, have fun! So what if your best friend is being annoyingly mushy with her hot new boyfriend? Be happy for her. Don't hate her because she found someone. People get what they get on their own time, believe me.

Looking for Mr. Right? Don't wait for him, he's just a boy. Be yourself, and the right person can come eventually. And this is coming from someone whose heart has been run over a truckload of times. You could meet someone, and you will realize why it never worked out with all the other bastards. 

In the meantime,try doing something you love, or better yet, try something new and fall in love with it. That's the best advantage you've got at being single: time. Remember that though romance is a wonderful thing, it is nothing close to what you essentially need to be happy.